And then I Came Back ….

For months, I chose to not write about the challenges which I faced on a daily basis as an individual living with autism.  However, after returning from the International Symposium on Autism – hosted by the Geneva Center – which was held in Toronto this past week, I am revisiting this – and have opted to share more insights. Perhaps I was tired of explaining things.  Perhaps I thought that finally I had mastered how to flow through Life without acknowledging that I was a woman on the spectrum and that I could pretend that I understood things.  But that becomes exhausting – and I’ve chosen to embrace this difference and to help others like me blossom in their own existence. Of course, I will still examine all the positivity of Life – I can’t do otherwise, because it’s who my essence is as a person.  I want to help others – but more importantly, I want to help others understand the challenges and differences which follow our existence on a daily basis because, slice it as you want, we are wired in a very different neurological way. Since I last wrote, many elements have shifted in my Life.  I’ve experienced many changes and transitions which are part of our life journeys – some have been pleasant while others have proven to be quite difficult to understand and process.  For all new readers, here they are.  My mother is now in a home for people who have Alzeihmers.   Although she is very close in distance, I cannot handle visiting her too often because I don’t know  how to handle the emotions that flow when I do.  Neurotpypicals offer help in processing them but so far, no suggestions have been ideal or geared to my way of thinking or understanding.  So I go – stay a few minutes – and then face anxiety and depression for a few days.  I get over it.  I always do. My brother had a stroke in March 2013.  I dropped everything for 5 months to stay by his side and help him through it.  Having autism has its advantages:  I was able to mentally drop everything and focus on him and his new way of living.  I learned everything about strokes.  Words.  Terminology.  Lingo.  I oversaw his therapy.  I made sure services were in place.  And when the time came – when he finally asked me to do so:  I let go.  He’s on his own – living a new life now.  It’s different.  It’s a new kind of normal. For all of us. My father is now 81 years young.  In the past few months, he’s dealt with many emotions and the stress has finally caught up to him.  As we speak, he is resting in a hospital room, undergoing medical tests to find out why he is not breathing properly.  He’s my hero – my lifeline … I know that some things cannot be changed but in my eyes, although he’s gotten weaker over the past few years – he remains my rock.  My hero.  My role model of existence.  I cried when Liane Holliday Willey spoke about her father at the conference for it echoes my very thoughts about mine.  She lost her dad five and a half years ago and she still cries everyday – still raw from having him far from her …. I think that at that very moment, I understood – finally – what the word empathy felt like.  Coming back to my own dad – he’s in good hands, and I believe that surrounded by our Guides and Angels, we are truly guided to the bigger plan put forth by the Source. My own family is doing well.  My oldest son is in College, working on his early childhood educator diploma.  He’s doing incredibly well.  As a family, we had to fight a little and educate the College world about autism culture.  It’s never easy – just when you think that the community knows about autism, we’re reminded that as an adult, we’re expected to become like every typical adult out there.  We’re not.  We still need help with routines.  Transitions.  Social Skills and Hidden Curriculum.  But as a team we’re getting things done, and Alex ( his name ) , is doing incredible. My youngest son is now in Grade eleven.  Loves school.  Hangs around with his ‘nerds’.  They speak photography and computers all day.  He bought about 15 different cubes this year and solved them all.  In a very speedy way.  Now, he’s moved on to other things.  I smile and mentally check off his traits.  No diagnosis …. but my oh my …. :) To this day, my husband remains my rock and has been the key person in my Life .  Without him, I’d be lost.  Suffice to say that a greater Love could not exist between two individuals.  He understands me.  ( or pretends to ).  Honours my differences.  And pushes me to test my personal limits.  We’ve moved to the River House.  ( I lived in the same house for 34 years …. bought my parents’ house ) …. and we’re so happy here.  Unlike many individuals would, I never once have missed that house.  It was beautiful. It held many memories.  But it was time.  So I boxed that up in my mind and moved on.  Life is incredible here.  I’m alone in Nature, yet surrounded by neighbours whom I respect.  It could not get better than this. On a professional note, I now work with adolescents on the spectrum and have been doing for two years.  I have a ‘drop-in’ center where I teach social skills and encourage them to use strategies.  It the best challenge that I’ve ever had as a teacher.  I am so blessed to be working with these individuals who teach me as much about Life as I do.  What is more fascinating to me is how many girls are now emerging on the spectrum who had fallen in the ‘cracks’ , if you may.  It’s a great thing that we’re finally focussing on the diagnostic differences for them – because they may have a better chance to understand their strengths and challenges at a younger age – and not have to struggle as much in an adult world, such as I did – being diagnosed when I was in my forties.  I’m also working on my Masters in Metaphysical Studies.  I am LOVING this.  Very tuned in the energies and insights I remain.  I still am very active in this part of my life and know that I help many on their paths as I fine tune my abilities.  I also write a weekly column in the West Nipissing Tribune :  Simply Rouge - where I share thoughts and offer advice about the daily grind.  People seem to appreciate it – and I love writing in this forum. And my final aha moment is the following:  for months, I’ve been thinking about publishing the book which I finally finished writing.  It’s ready…. but I think that instead, I’ll change my ways – and release my music album.  It’s ready – all the songs are in my piano – waiting for the world to hear.  I just need to figure out who can help – and then it’s a done deal. It’s going launch later on this year, with my website:  annegingras.com. So there you have it.  Updates of my Life .  I’m back on the Autism Track ! Join me in experiencing life through my eyes – and together – we’ll make fascinating discoveries ! LIFE IS GOOD !

About the World at the Moment

I also write another blog …. here is what I posted there this morning ….

I haven’t been feeling too good lately – and I think it’s because my physical body is reacting to all the energies in the World – the bad ones that is. There is war – hurt – pain – tears – destruction – desperation – and truth be told , I feel like it’s affecting all of us in different ways. I myself, usually a calming person , have been easily irritated. Have felt like crying . And have almost , at times, because also defiant towards the simplest of situations – and towards those whom I love the most.

Enough. Time to change this energy around us. I’ve called in ‘my team’. I have my two guides – Adam and Nathaniel. I’ve called in the ‘Source’ – and asked that I receive help in dissipating the negativity – and in restoring hope and faith in humanity – if only in my immediate circles and community.

Since I have done so – a few hours ago, things are literally brighter. I feel better. Not alone. And the physical manifestations of pain are also disappearing.

Enough of sadness and fear for today. Let’s send in Light. Lots of it. Everywhere. I’m reminding everybody about my unity bowl. More than a thousand names are in it now – and I hope that this week, Universe will send me a thousand more. For if we are able to raise the vibrations of a few individuals at a time – we can change the world. Transform it into a more peaceful environment to live in. One person and one heart at a time.

I’m not giving up today. I’m never giving up – ever.

Join me – spread the Light – spread the energy – spread the Love.

reveriesandrevelations@gmail.com – to send in names of individuals ( including yours ) who may benefit from positive and healing energy. Sent out every night … no need to resubmit names every day – once in the unity bowl – they remain in for as long as you wish …..

Namaste

xo

The Incredible Letter Project

It starts of as a very ordinary day and suddenly, I’m hit with it.  Another weird idea.  Another way to perhaps change the world and to make a difference in someone’s day.  The other day was no different:  I headed to the post office to pick up my mail and saw, amongst a pile of bills to be paid, a few Christmas cards.  I have long stopped sending those. I love receiving them – but the idea of sharing into the tradition is not important to me .  What DID hit me, is that as a society, we write less and less letters.  E-mails and texts, social media and Instagram have taken over the art of letter writing.  You supposedly can transmit your thoughts with 100 characters and a few emoticons.  We’ve accepted this.  We’re moving on.  Or are we ? I guess I’m a romantic at heart – and dream of receiving that one letter which will make me cry and swoon.  One written on old paper with a black pen – sealed in a wax medallion. 

As you probably all know, I am moving in a few months and I have begun packing my things.  In a box, I have every single letter that my husband sent me when I was in University.  I kept every scrap of paper.  Every card.  Every I LOVE YOU note.  And as I go through them once a year, I am reminded of how easy it was to make me happy back then.  How excited I was to walk over to that mailbox and find a letter – sometimes two or three – waiting for me.  Words of the heart.  Terms of  Endearment.  Words written by hand – by HIS hand – expressing how important I was to him.  

As I came home that evening, I put forth a new idea.  On Facebook, I told people to send me their addresses , and that I would randomly send them a letter.  And then I waited.  And the addresses started pouring in.  One, two, three.   A few days later – they are still creeping in.  My wish is for many to think about the concept – and to perhaps join the Incredible Letter Project.  Addresses are sent.  Letters are being written and sent.  Just because.  It’s easy .  It’s fun.  And it could perhaps one day save somebody’s Life .  Someone who is alone.  Ill. Sad.  Waiting for a sign that Life is important and worth enjoying.  Someone who forgot that the Universe sometimes sends us a sign in the most unlikely of ways.  So I invite you to peruse the Facebook page.  Like it.  And then – send in your address.  You may be the one to receive one of my letters….

https://www.facebook.com/pages/The-Incredible-Letter-Project/544028279016033

Have  a great day !

Saturday’s Thought of the Day

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Always try to start the day with a deep breath and a positive thought.  No matter how bad yesterday was, it’s in the past – and tomorrow is a brand new day to change the course of your journey.  You may meet someone, realize something or simply feel a little better, if only for a few seconds more than yesterday.  Breathe.  Exhale.  Breathe in again.  Listen to your intuition – what is it telling you? Mine this morning whispered that it was going to be a great day.  Some ME time.  Some let’s re-evaluate things time.  Some reading-for-people time.  Perhaps a few visitors at my home – and later – a few visitors from Spirit. 

It’s Saturday and the pace is slower.  I’m going to have one great day :  a positive thought at a time …

About the Time Change …

It’s arrived.  One of my most dreaded times of year : the time change happens Sunday morning at 2 Am.   Tomorrow, people around me will smile and think how great it was to have that extra hour to sleep in.  I will still be up at the ‘regular’ time – and have to function through my day.  I’ll still have to deal with the fact that my biological functions are set for certain times – and have all been moved backwards.  I’ll have to deal with the fact that I will likely be driving home in the dark now – with blaring lights hurting my eyes.  ( I have sensory difficulties and lights are my biggest obstacles ).  It will take me at least 2 weeks to adjust.  My patience will be greatly reduced.  My production will be almost non-existent.  My anxiety will be up.  I likely will be close to tears every day…. I will have migraines.  And people will tell me how the time change affects everybody and how I should really ‘suck’ it up.  It’s part of Life.  Yet it’s going to be harder than that.  When one lives on the Autism Spectrum – regular Life is difficult enough ….  Adding this extreme change to the mix is really painful.

So please :  if you are the parent, the friend or the colleague of an individual on the spectrum this weekend :  please please please try to understand.  Limit your expectations of us .  Do not ask us to participate in activities if we are not inclined to do so.  Hold our hand if we ask you to do so – and respect our bigger-than-usual personal space requirements.  Changes and transitions are never easy – at least not for me – this 43 year old Aspie woman … but I’ll get it … I’ll get used to it :  I just need time to do so …

Shhhhh……

Although most times it’s about Family and friends, sometimes your Guides and the Universe make you stop.  Analyze your life.  And make you realize that really, this time – it’s about YOU.  Perhaps you’re tired and overworked.  Worried.  Stressed. You’ve been running around trying to keep everything around you solid and intact – while you are yourself falling apart.  Your Guides sense that you’re tired.  Depleted.  And they offer you insight on how to calm down.  Stop.  Rest.  And regroup so that your body and soul can be whole again.  So listen up :  what are your Guides telling YOU?  Will you stop and listen ?  The Universe knows best …..  just saying … 

Repeat after me :  I’ve haven’t been able to slow down … up until now ….   ( Thank you John Edward … )

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